Last Updated on January 25, 2023
Here’s a list of some good questions about self-love
Our most important relationship in life is the one we have with ourselves. If you don’t love and respect yourself, how can you love and respect others? The road to self-love is not always easy. That is why I wrote a post about self-love questions to ask yourself to help you learn to love yourself a bit more every day.
It happens quite often that we expect from others what we are unable to give ourselves for various reasons. The same is true for self-love. We expect that others will love us, and we’re disappointed when they don’t do that. At the same time, we forget that at some point, we stopped loving ourselves. It’s critical that we treat ourselves with respect and love.
We’ve all heard the phrase, “You have to love yourself before you can love someone else.” But we don’t always understand what it means or how to get there.
Self-care is not the same as self-love. Pampering yourself with a manicure or pedicure, buying yourself new things, allowing yourself a walk in nature, and other similar activities are examples of self-care. However, self-care can occur while a person despises themselves.
It all starts with establishing a foundation of self-love that is independent of what you do or don’t do, who you are or aren’t, and what you have or haven’t achieved. Your love toward yourself must be rock solid, which means that you love and respect yourself even when you screw up, even when you make the worst mistake, or fail completely.
You may have to correct your behavior or put up with unpleasantness, but at your core, you believe in your own worth, and your self-love is not dependent on anyone or anything. You love yourself simply because you are, and you respect, recognize, and value yourself regardless of what happens or does not happen, whatever anyone says or does not say—your self-love will stand strong.
A person living with sufficient self-love:
• Is mentally and physically healthy
• Is radiating positivity
• Acts with intuition and inner motives as support
• Trusts themselves and others
• Has an open mind to the world
• Believes in the worth of their actions
• Has a clear self-image
• Prioritizes satisfaction over success
• Feels love in themselves and radiates it
• Has an adequate self-esteem
• Has self-respect
• Has accepted complete responsibility for their life
• Believes in their abilities and necessity
• Makes decisions based on love, trust, and peace
• Is calm, smiling, and stable
6 ways to increase self-love:
1. Gradually try to let go of the need to be perfect and to please others. If you’re a perfectionist who likes to finish everything, practice leaving things unfinished and messing up by doing something else instead and learning to enjoy it without blaming or berating yourself.
2. Ask yourself self-love reflection questions. Asking questions helps you understand yourself better and helps you learn to love yourself. These are questions that make you think about yourself and help you realize how powerful you are. Once you’ve discovered self-love, it becomes your superpower. It makes you stronger and inspires you to share the love with the world around you.
3. Start comparing yourself to yourself rather than others. When you begin to focus on yourself instead of other people, you will quickly notice three significant changes: you will begin to feel better, your health will improve, and the quality of your relationships will improve.
4. Get some paper and a pencil. Assess your most important relationships by giving them a + if you feel valued, happy, and truly noticed, and a – if you feel restricted, harassed, or uncomfortable. Then, gradually reduce the amount of time you devote to negative relationships, eventually giving them up entirely.
5. Set aside one hour each day for yourself, doing something truly enjoyable with no other people involved. Do the things you enjoy the most in a way that you organize them yourself, without involving other people, and that are mostly free or for a nominal fee. Do this on a daily basis.
Learn and practice saying “no” and “yes” based on your own desires, rather than anticipating other people’s wishes, thinking for them, or considering their feelings in advance. If you like or want to participate in something, say “yes.” If you don’t, say “no,” without making excuses or giving a long explanation.
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As I mentioned, one of the ways to increase self-love is to pick some good self-love questions to ask yourself and practice them. My preferred method for that is to just ask myself one question per day (I’ll give you a list of the questions below) and then write down whatever comes to mind when I ask myself that specific question. It’s just simple journaling, and there are no rules, so let your imagination go wild.
Of course, you can answer these questions orally or in your head, but I have found that writing them down in a journal is more effective.
Journaling can help you become aware of and articulate your feelings, which are usually buried deep inside. As scientists have proven, writing with the right hand stimulates the brain, especially the part responsible for creativity. In addition, if you write about problems, you can find a completely unexpected way out of certain situations.
Now let’s move on to the questions!
Here are some of my favorite self-acceptance questions
1. What is one thing I enjoy, and why should others enjoy it as well?
2. What is one fact about myself that most people are unaware of?
3. Is my personality introverted or extroverted?
4. How would I describe myself to a total stranger?
5. What makes me laugh the most?
6. What is one thing that seems important now but will be irrelevant in five years?
7. Who is the most trustworthy person in my life?
8. What are the limiting beliefs that prevent me from loving myself more?
9. What is my favorite feature of my face, and why?
10. How am I currently feeling?
11. Am I spiritual?
12. Do I have a sense of balance in my life?
13. What is one thing that can instantly improve my day?
14. Consider a skill you wish you possessed. What is one way you can begin practicing it?
15. What can I do to increase my happiness?
16. What are the five things I should stop doing?
17. What are my biggest fears? How can I get past them?
18. When I meet new people, what do I want them to know about me?
19. Whose company do I like the most?
20. What do I turn to when I’m in need of comfort? This is one of my favorite self-love questions to ask yourself because, by asking it, you’re focusing on your needs.
21. What do I consider to be my life’s purpose?
22. What is it that keeps me from living the life I want to live?
23. How can I better care for myself?
24. What is one of my qualities that makes me feel unique?
25. What do I most desire in life?
26. What is the state of my physical health, and how can I improve it?
27. What three things could I give up to gain more time, energy, and peace?
28. What blessings am I currently experiencing in my life?
29. What three things am I thankful for today?
30. Do I appreciate myself?
31. What do I consider to be my greatest personal achievement?
32. What are some of my favorite inspirational quotes?
33. What is my favorite thing to do outside?
34. Where do I feel secure?
35. What are the five positive things I should begin doing? This is one of those questions to ask yourself for self-love that helps you improve your life and steer it in a positive direction.
36. How is my mindset? How can I cultivate a positive mindset?
37. What is the state of my mental health? How can I make it better?
38. What is my favorite pastime in my spare time?
39. How can I make my daily habits better?
40. Do I have a healthy sense of self-esteem? How can I make it better?
41. What would I tell my younger self?
42. What aspect of my health do I appreciate?
43. What effect does exercise have on my mental outlook?
44. What exactly does happiness mean to me? How can I make my life more joyful?
45. Consider your favorite hobby or activity. Why do you like it so much?
46. What is the most thoughtful thing I’ve ever done for myself?
47. What motivates me?
48. What impact do I want to have on the world?
49. How have my darkest moments shaped who I am today?
50. When was the last time I said to myself, “I love myself?”
These are certainly among the best self-love questions to ask yourself
Do you journal? What’s your preferred type of journaling? Did you find any of these questions useful? Let me know in the comments below. I’d love to hear your thoughts!